I can't figure out if this is worse than another Tyler Perry movie....

I was browsing here and saw this link and it lead me here.

Y'all...this is why we can't have nice things.

Why does that horrible book need to be made into a movie? And why can't I figure out if this is worse than a Tyler Perry movie? I mean, so few things in this universe are worse, in my opinion, than a Tyler Perry movie.

Let's compare them:

Steve Harvey's book - Regurgitated, plagiarized material, repackaged by a man in a pimp suit and cosigned by fucking Oprah, at whom I am still mad for fucking up Their Eyes Were Watching God, lol.

A Tyler Perry movie - Regurgitated, repackaged stereotypes and bullshit, presented by a crossdressing, chitlin circuit "screenwriter" and cosigned by fucking Oprah, at whom I am still mad for inspiring fucking Tyra Banks and making her think she should talk instead of sit there and look pretty.

It's a close one.

I mean, Oprah did get Obama elected, but I'm convinced that she funds a lot of this crap that contributes to the fucked up condition of the black community so..........yeah.

I might have to get back to you on this one. Either way, I'm upset. ;-)

20 Years Ago

My uncle, Buddy, stage name, Vinx.

They say that the first man a girl ever loves is her daddy. Which is true, in my case. But, luckily, I was given 2 men, real men, to love before I could even walk (or talk or write or eat solid foods, etc. lol).



Almost 26 years ago, my beautiful. wonderful self was born into this world, welcomed by, among others, my grandfather. Poppy, as I called him (cuz just learning to talk Melissa couldn't pronounce things properly, remember? Lmao). He was, according to my mother, delighted to have his first grandchild. And, as I vaguely remember, he was even more delighted that I was.......a handful, because he liked to watch my mother try to manage me. Parents, it seems, sit in wait for the day when their children have to be parents, so they can laugh at them. Ha!



20 years ago, while stopping for a pack of cigarettes at a gas station, my Poppy, my mother's Daddy, an Air Force veteran, husband, brother, son, was killed. Stabbed to death by some carjacking career criminal the prison system decided they no longer had room to house. For the wallet he willingly gave up and the keys he hurriedly handed over.

20 years ago, some punk broke my grandmother's heart.

When my daddy passed away, one of the first things my mother said (in a laughably vain attempt) to comfort me was that I was lucky to have had a father, a real father, who loved me and raised me and disciplined me and took care of me. In her eulogy, she jokingly talked about how I had (in all seriousness) come home from my first year of college and hugged her, thanking her for staying married to my father, because I had seen what growing up without a man in the home could do to a young girl.

Well........today I read the tribute she gave at her own father's funeral and something else she said touched me (it turns out that my mother is actually as wise as she pretends to be):

Daddy was the first man I ever loved, and the first man to love me. So when I began to look for the man to spend the rest of my life with, I knew exactly what qualities were important. The attributes I found in my husband were the ones I observed in my daddy.

And she was right.

Happy August

Once again, I am reminded of why I don't plan. It never works out that way anyway. It's simply easier to be prepared for things and let life happen however it fucking wants to, because that's what it's going to do, ya know?

My birthday is in 3 and a half weeks. I am wisely choosing to not expect to be doing anything of interest for it. Heh.

That is all.

Ahem! In case it had slipped your mind......

Our First Couple is bad as hell!

=D

Am I the only one who has a problem with this?

I follow CNN on Twitter. They post good shit and I trust them to be a credible news resource. But...what the fuck is this? (Not that I'm blaming CNN for it, just...smdh)

I came across this link: Single black women choosing to adopt - It is apparently a part of their Black in America series. Whatever. Still disturbing.

Since when...since when is having a baby something that you can rush because you feel like you're running out of time, but you're still waiting for God to "guide you to the right man"? And then, to top it off, the woman responsible for that nonsense has 3 adopted children. Yeah. Okay, "sister". You keep waiting for God to guide a man your way who feels like dealing with your baggage. *snort* She is also quoted as saying "I am not going to settle and get married just for the sake of being married". Ummm......let's rework that sentence: "I am not going to settle and have children just for the sake of having children." See how both sound like reasonable, mature things to say as a single woman? Sheesh!

Now please, don't get me wrong. Adoption is a beautiful and selfless thing that renews my faith in the spirit of human kindness and whatnot, but seriously. Adopting a child because you claim you can't find a good man and you're sick of waiting for one is ludicrous. Not to mention incredibly selfish. This isn't an unplanned pregnancy, where a woman might decide to have the baby for various reasons, nor is it adoption because a couple has fertility issues. Children aren't accessories nor are they salves to make you feel better about being lonely. Get a puppy. lol

And of course, the article focusing on the fact that it's black women apparently leading this "trend" did not escape me. Major WTF?! How far is this whole "independent woman" "there aren't any good black men" thing really gonna go? I mean, yeah. Buy Louboutins. Push a Lexus. Fly off with your girls to Jamaica or Aruba. Figure out your own 401k thingy. (something I still need to do, btw) But can we stop pretending that the rapid disappearance of black families isn't a tragedy and/or acting like it is truly possible to make a "family" out of any old combination of people living in the same house? Grrr!

And I refuse to comment on the section of the article where they talked about how adoptive parents are rejecting the dark skinned children.

*sigh*